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The missing piece

Self is an incredibly complicated concept and can be interpreted in many different ways. For me, it’s the parts that make up me.

And I only recently realised what these are.

Our bodies are crucial and a no brainer for something that’s important to care for when we talk about self care. Eating nourishing real foods that fuel us, exercise and sleep are well documented and true facts in caring for ourselves.

Our minds are also superstars that have hundred of thousands of books and articles dedicated to how to care for them properly. Living in the present, positive thinking and meditation are a handful of ways to do this.

Soul, spirit or whatever you prefer to call it, it’s there and is fuelled by things that connect us to a higher way of being.

Accessing this part of ourselves isn’t just religion or spirituality. It can also be connecting with our creativity through artistic ventures, community through good deeds and volunteering, or the soul to soul connection we get from deep, meaningful conversations. There are also a myriad of ways to connect with and care for our souls.

Focusing on creating a balanced life earlier this year I was diligently focusing on each of these areas, with a lot of time spent reflecting, listening and learning.

I cared for my body, mind and soul daily, but something was missing. My passion and fire was burning out.

At first I thought I wasn’t doing enough, but then I saw that there was definitely something missing and began to reflect.

This is when the fourth house of self came into my attention. Heart.

Heart is passion, love, joy, laughter, happiness and total and utter bliss. When you are radiating that beautiful glow of someone who is completely content with where they are at and in love with their life.

This could be a part of soul, as each of these things are definitely also good for our souls but it really helped me to segment it out as an areas to specifically focus on.

Somehow in my focus I’d forgotten to live. To enjoy life. I’ve posted about this before and yep I slipped into it again without realising.

Topping up our hearts is so important. It’s our experience of life and should be filled with joy and laughter, passion and fun.

It doesn’t only mean a relationship, though that can also fuel our hearts. It’s making sure that love for life and passion and joy flows out of us. After all, how pleasant is it to be around people who are genuinely happy?

I don’t mean selfish or overcompensating, but a genuine, deep happiness.

That’s what I was missing.

So I remind you, if you’re reflecting on how to get yourself on track or are on your journey, remember your heart. Give yourself permission to be joyful, silly, playful and fun in whatever form that looks like for you.

Without it, we’re not whole or living our life to its fullest potential.

Give yourself permission and let’s have some fun.

Much love,


The X Factor

There’s a certain glow about people who are living out their passion. Something emanates out of them, and they have something about them that’s immediately recognisable to everyone around.

Even if it’s just realising that there’s something different or special about them, they have a presence that everyone can tell they are kicking goals.

At lunch recently I was surrounded by two girls, a close friend and another girl who I’d never met before. As we navigated the sometimes awkward conversation that follows when you meet new people and try to find common ground, we started talking about her big five things she wanted to achieve in life.

After reading a book she’d been inspired to assess what she wants out of life, write a list and start ticking things off. 

From this book she determined not only a roadmap of what she wants to achieve in her life, but also her purpose. Her purpose for living as she called it. She was buzzing.

The deeper we got into discussion, her body language changed and she began emanating that glow. It was spectacular to watch and as my friend and I also shared about our purpose the table was suddenly filled with three strong, sure, remarkable women who were out to create change in a big way.

The first time I put together that this amazing vibe is from someone living out their purpose was at a conference I attended for work. It was Run The World, an entrepreneur conference that celebrates some of the less recognised but truly amazing female entrepreneurs who are making waves in their industries.

Each of them buzzed. They were strong, sure of themselves and had an energy that lit up the stage as they spoke about their businesses.

From Pia Muehelenbeck of Slinkii Athletic to Gillian Franklin of Heat Group and Eli Censor of Nutrition Bar and KX Cycle, it was clear that they were no ordinary women. Or were they?

I believe that living out our purpose is something that every person has the ability to do.

Regardless of your gender, age, upbringing or socioeconomic status, we can each determine our soul’s purpose and live it out.

What this looks like might be different depending on some of those aforementioned factors, but I believe that we are each born with a purpose. I also believe that once we 100% choose to go forward with it that we’ll be given what we need to make it happen.

Our purpose is often closely linked to our passions. If you live to tell jokes, your purpose could be to spread joy, if it’s cooking then your purpose may be to nurture others or bring people together.

Each day I set my intention and I leave no room for questioning that it will be dedicated to what my purpose is.

I’m so grateful to now know my purpose and be about to launch a company that encapsulates all of my belief systems.

This company will allow me to create the type of workplace I’ve craved my whole life, not just for me, but for my future staff. It will also help me spread the message on a large scale that everything we think, do, and in this case purchase, has an impact on the world we are creating. This is my purpose.

It fuels me, it frightens me and it makes me realise that I was born for a reason. What an honour to know what that is and be doing something about it.

Start asking yourself what your purpose is and the answer will come sooner than you think if you listen. The next move is up to you.

Much love,