On our bodies there are various physical points that destress us – but what is yours in life?
By this I mean what activity can you do that melts everything away and makes you feel human again? And how often do you do it?
It’s easy to forget about relaxation in the hysteria of our lives. And the irony is that the more we need to destress, the less it’s on our minds as we try and squeeze every second out of the day to maximise our output. That’s my unconscious reaction anyway.
In my new role as an entrepreneur my task list seems to be growing faster than I ever imagined.
The difference with me is that I flat out refuse to lose my focus on creating balance for my mind, body and heart while I do this. And the more work activities that get added the more other fun activities I need to balance them out.
I’ve been failing a lot at balance lately.
At some ridiculously early hour of the morning as my mind kept whirring I decided that the only way to end this was to put exactly where I’m choosing to spend my time into a form that I can see every day. Then at the end of each day, week and month I can see what I’ve created.
It’s easy to reset each week and say that next week will be better, but when it’s a constant backwards and forwards, with more backwards in many areas, it can all add up to a giant out of balance.
My answer is what I’m calling my Balance Board.
My Balance Board is going to be a large piece of card on my wall with all the activities that I want to include in my week, and some that invariably will enter like a whirring mind.
This is helping me keep track of what my time and energy is going towards, and more easily help me see where needs attention.
There will be things like working, exercising, friends and fun, but it will also be broken down much more specifically based on what I know I want to track. Things like thinking about work, restlessness, heart activities/things that I love, mind activities/meditation, yang exercise/strength training or cardio and yin exercises/stretching or yoga. Is it obvious I’ve been studying Chinese medicine again?
These are the sneaky ones that are the key to me creating a balanced and happy life.
I’ve realised that I am the number one asset in my company and for that reason I need to keep myself at my peak. And this is more than an early night as they usually turn into me continuing to think about work or other stress triggers into the early hours of the morning anyway.
Without me my company will fail and the vision I have of creating change won’t happen, or at least not in the way I see is missing from society.
This pull to create change on a large scale makes me serious about pulling myself back into balance faster and faster. I’ve been chipping away at this for a while but a near return of my chronic fatigue and glimpse at having the choice to build my business taken away from me shook me into action.
This will not fail. I will not fail. When we are playing a big game sometimes it takes something physical to help us keep all of our balls in the air.
A simpler version of this is write out a naughts and crosses board with your top nine things that you want to include in your life. Put it somewhere that you see it before bed every night.
This activity helped me endlessly for a long time to see when things like exercise, fun or mind body connection were falling out of focus.
If you are out of balance and missing what really matters to you in your life why not give it a try? Or let me know what helps you keep balanced, I’d love to hear your suggestions.