There are no hard and fast rules anymore. Life is becoming more flexible around us in all areas, and we need to adapt constantly.
From someone who plays very well following instructions and rules, this is quite frankly doing my head in some days.
How do we manage this new way of living? We require both strength and flexibility.
This is something I realised some time ago, but with a busy life I’ve dragged my feet on. Recently however I’ve seen the connection to all areas of my life so am adding in little bits of both.
It’s not about being extreme with either of these things, it’s about balancing a few of them and understanding the link.
Strength and flexibility lend themselves to feeling strong, balanced and sure, which then allows ourselves the flexibility to enjoy ourselves as well.
This translates to both our minds and bodies.
If we are too strong, we can lose that softness that makes our experience of life so enjoyable. We become rigid in our thinking, and moving. This means that we may miss opportunities as we can’t turn to see them there waiting for us to enjoy.
If we are too flexible however, and don’t have any strength or stability we can find ourselves being swayed every which way. Mentally this can be exhausting and unproductive with us never really moving forward. Physically, it can mean injuries.
Some people work in phases, focusing on one then the other at certain times of their life or the year.
For others it’s seasonal. For some people they seem to innately recognise this need for balance and set up their lives with each of these things in a harmonious dance.
When I meet these innately balanced people, as you know, I really enjoy watching them. Their ways are perplexing but as a student of life I love to learn.
Recently I was chased around by a wasp, and it wasn’t the first time one had found its way into my room. There was no nest, and they’re not common in our area.
I looked up the spiritual meaning of this sign. I’m a firm believer that sometimes creepy crawlies are just that, but other times I can feel that they are there with a bigger message.
The wasp is all about defending their home and self with all that they have. There are tones of vengeance yes, but at their core, they are fiercely protective of what’s most important to them. This is a trait I certainly struggle with.
My Italian heritage and Taurus cusp nature means that I’m fiercely loyal to those I love.
Hurt someone I love and you’ll see a very different side of me. In this regard I’m in line with a wasp, but what’s most important in my own life as I’ve posted about so many times can fall by the wayside.
So how many of us would fiercely defend what’s most important in our own lives for ourselves?
I’ve never quite understood how one particular person I know manages the balance that he does.
Running a successful business, working out 6 days a week, being social, always appearing relaxed and with two small children and a family it’s amazing.
He recently talked about the concept of his Central Park from a book he was reading. It’s the thing that keeps us sane, just like Central Park in New York.
It balances out the craziness that surrounds this calm space, and without it, the whole city would fall into disarray. So even though it’s on expensive real estate that could be populated, New York locals know the true value of this space and protect it.
This particular person defends his Central Park in his life, because without it he’d go crazy. He respects its value and makes space for it.
If you take a moment, there’s certainly things in your life that you know when they fall away make your experience, or maybe even you, a lot less pleasant.
Do you compromise these things or fiercely defend them knowing the impact if they fall away?
It’s not about ego, it’s not about being inflexible or stubborn. Protecting what makes your life work is about respecting the overarching importance of these things, creating the space for them and protecting them.
It’s about preventing chaos.
That’s the message that I thought I’d deliver to you all. Find, make space for and protect your Central Park, whatever that is for you. You are worth it.
Then you’ve got a protected space to manage everything that goes on around it.