Failing to win

Winning can look a lot like failing some days but they’re galaxies away from each other.

Growing up we get taught that failing is bad. If we’re lucky we got shown how to dust ourselves off and try again, but the underlying message was still that failing is bad.

I’ve been reflecting a lot on this notion recently after reminding a number of friends that we’re not all superhuman and that sometimes things don’t go to plan.

There are road blocks, health issues, temporary slips into old ways of being and the pièce de résistance when we think we’re doing the right thing and fail still. Again and again we fall and it hurts.

When this happens it’s time for that conscious voice to take the reins.

If we fall and don’t give up, we are already so far ahead of where we started, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

In the words of Thomas Edison “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

It’s completely true.

If we fail repeatedly and still don’t give up, we’re learning so much still. We’re learning to be resilient, adaptive, trusting and strong to name a few.

I think of it as growing laterally. Sometimes it’s not about becoming taller, but is about growing in another way.

Whether that’s new skills, ways of thinking or being, or maybe even some physical learnings, we’re still evolving and moving towards where we want to be.

It can be infuriating and disheartening, trust me I’m with you. Know however that our growth will eventually catch up so that we can shoot forward with far more speed and accuracy now that we’re truly ready.

There are plans that are bigger than us, and life is a lot easier if we listen, feel when something is right or amiss and roll with it.

When there’s no rules it’s hard. When the rules keep changing it’s hard, but if you look back you’ll see that you’ve learned so much and not given up. And you’ve probably done it with class and persistence.

That’s something not everyone can say.

Next time you feel like you’re failing, take a minute to look back and see how far you’ve come.

This and all blips are temporary if you embrace your next life lesson, learn and move on.

Fail often, fail big, fail repeatedly, just not in the same way. That’s how we grow and how we live this gloriously messy thing called life.

Hang in there.

Much love,


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