As I posted about recently it’s been a pretty rocky road these last few months learning a lot very quickly.
Without my usual safety nets like a routine, regular income and so many other things it’s put my nerves on edge. I haven’t always handled it the best way.
With three months until a major life event I’ve decided to clean up my act and do a 12 week challenge. It’s a different kind though and has one rule – be kind to myself.
I’ve written in the past about my controlling and destructive ways. For too many years I was brutal on myself, controlling every aspect of my life so that I did what I thought was best no matter if my body was screaming for me to do something else.
This last year I’ve learned the absolute bliss of listening to my body to hear what it needs.
In my 12 week challenge I’ve got plenty of things that I would like to add in, but how and when they get done will depend on what I feel is best at that time.
If I’m tired I might give myself a facial, have a foot soak and/or read as part of a relaxing night in (a crucial aspect that’s been missing lately). If I’m really energetic I might bust out my strength training, or if my nerves are on edge I might go to a yoga class instead.
I’ll make time again for my true love of dance, and put aside money to make it happen so there’s no excuses.
This also means I’ll be more committed to my stretching each morning as it requires an amazing amount of flexibility.
I’ll put reminders in my phone to get a haircut occasionally so I feel fantastic when I look in the mirror, and I’ll also set a reminder to do a few quick exercises each morning so I can improve a lingering injury.
There will be time in my day to meditate and do a visualisation activity to create my life as even more amazing. I’ll also commit to moving every day for at least 30 minutes instead of working through with no break, which leaves me stressed, on edge and over-tired.
Basically I’m going to be selfish for a little while and I am completely okay with that.
I’ll still make time for my friends and usual commitments, but I’m going to be incredibly conscious of what my body needs in these 12 weeks and act on that. No control, no schedules, no dictatorship like rigour, just a peaceful exchange of kindness and respect.
This is very new territory for me so it’s even about being kind to myself when I forget or start to get a bit obsessive.
After 12 weeks I feel like I’ll be mentally and physically at the top of my game ready for the next very exciting chapter of my life.
I’ll feel amazing and that’ll flow into every aspect of my life. This includes being more present to the needs of those around me as I’m not caught up in my own mind.
For me this is about learning a new way of being, a more reflective and gentle way, but also building myself up so I can be who I choose to be for others.
We all know that when we feel amazing that it flows out of us.
We smile at others, joke around and are kind without a second thought because we are in that state of mind.
By being a little bit gentler on ourselves we are actually paving the way to be more selfless, which to me seems like a worthy thing to commit my time to.